15 Things People Who Love To Be Alone Are Secretly Guilty Of

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1. Waiting to answer texts when someone asks what you’re up to because you get that weird panicky feeling that they’re going to want to hang out immediately.

2. OR you straight up decline plans for no real reason other than you just don’t feel like being around people at the moment. It’s nothing personal. You just really were planning on being alone at the time your friend suggested doing something.

3. Putting more importance on reading a book than going out and feeling absolutely no remorse over your choice.

4. Or if it isn’t a book, it’s finishing a TV series. C’mon, sometimes you just HAVE to know how something’s going to end before you can proceed on with your life.

5. Asking someone if they want to do something later in the day or on a different day just because if you don’t spend more time by yourself…

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Pope Francis’ Guide to Lent: What You Should Give Up This Year

Learn to love again this Lenten season. Fasting from indifference, and perhaps more importantly from the vicious drama that so often is social media, may just be the key to the joyous and fulfilling life so many of us (not just Catholics) are seeking. Take a step out of your box and give up the negative things that are dragging you and your writing down. When Easter arrives you might just discover your career has been resurrected and reborn in far better ways than you ever imagined.


Christians around the world mark the beginning of Lent with the celebration of Ash Wednesday. This ancient day and season has a surprising modern appeal. Priests and pastors often tell you that outside of Christmas, more people show up to church on Ash Wednesday than any other day of the year—including Easter. But this mystique isn’t reserved for Christians alone. The customs that surround the season have a quality to them that transcend religion.

Perhaps most notable is the act of fasting. While Catholics fast on Ash Wednesday and on Fridays during the Lenten season, many people—religious or not—take up this increasingly popular discipline during the year.

MORE Here’s What People On Twitter Say They’re Giving Up For Lent

But Pope Francis has asked us to reconsider the heart of this activity this Lenten season. According to Francis, fasting must never become superficial. He often quotes the early Christian mystic…

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Chart Of The Day

How your characters speak reveals a lot about them and the world they live in. Although many authors shy away from having their characters us e swear or curse words, the use of those very same words in conversations among the general public seems to be increasing. Before you go turning every other word into something nasty, however, you many want to consider that these finding rely on self -reported data. It is possible, although admittedly unlikely, that the participants have become more sensitive to hearing swear words because they are not part of everyday conversations and the participants were told to count every time they heard a curse word. If that is the case then swear words are not becoming more popular. The best advice is to use swear words where and when they feel appropriate and natural for a character rather than jet tossing them in gratuitously. That way, even if swear words are becoming shocking in public, readers are less likely to lash out at you or your characters for being “vulgar”.

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by Dish Staff

Swear Words

Swearing may be getting more common:

Kristin Jay, a psychologist at Marist College who’s collected data on public swearing says that, on the whole, it seems to be getting somewhat more common. Recently, she and her husband Timothy Jay asked a group of American adults to rigorously record every time they heard a swear word in public for an entire year. When they compared their data to a similar study conducted in 1986, they found that the frequency of most words had increased over time.

In an interview, Jay cautioned from reading too deeply into the findings — especially on the individual word level — because the volunteers might not have perfectly recorded every curse they heard, and the subjects weren’t spread out across the country (they were clustered in New England and Southern California). That said, Jay notes one possible reason that swearing may be on the upswing. “We see…

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Passionate Writing Isn’t Enough

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“Write what you are passionate about.”

I’d wager that almost every writer on the planet has heard this gem. It (like it’s more mundane counterpart: “Do what you love.”) is frequently followed by “The money/success will follow.”


Ask any writer who’s been a writer for more than a year and they will tell you there is much more to being a successful writer than just passion. What they won’t tell you is that what that “more” is, and even your passions are subject to change. In fact, they may change so fast and so frequently that you have trouble identifying what you are passionate about let alone how to be a successful writer.

Perseverance is more important than Passion

When it comes right down to it, successful writers are the ones who keep writing. Read that again. Think about it. Successful writers keep writing.

If you think that I, or any writer, has been passionate about everything they have ever written at the time they were writing it, you’re fooling yourself. Many of the things I have written, I really wasn’t all that interested in, let alone passionate about.

So why write them?

The easy answer is: someone paid me to. Sure, the topic, project or client had to interest me in the first place or I wouldn’t have taken it on. But I could have written about something else. Something I was passionate about. I didn’t. The truth is I will take an interesting paying assignment over writing for free about my passions any day of the week, even now. Why? Because getting paid keeps me writing. It’s why I show up every day and put my fingers to keyboard or pen to paper.

The better answer is: everything I write teaches me something, hones my skills and proves I am still here, writing. Good writing isn’t written in a vacuum. Projects I am not passionate about still get me and my name out there is the world which increases the likelihood that someone will stumble across me, discover my passions and pay me, either by hiring me to work on a project or buying my books/content, to write about them. The more I write, the better I write and the more people have the opportunity to read what I write. That, in a nutshell, is why I persevere and why “just showing up, day in and day out” is more important than loving what you write or what you are writing about.

Passion is a tool

So why do so many people advise others to be passionate about what they write? Do they want them to fail, leaving more assignments up for grabs? Hardly. I’ve never met a writer who wanted another writer to fail. Sure, writers can be (and often are) professionally jealous and some may not be as encouraging or supportive of their fellow writers as the could be. When competing against other writers for contracts or jobs we are as capable as anyone else at sabotaging other candidates (unfortunately, that’s also a great way to sabotage ourselves), but generally speaking we don’t want other writers to fail as much as we don’t want to compete with them for scarce resources and readers. If they can succeed elsewhere, great, just not in the same space that we want. Encouraging others to pursue their passions seems like a great way to move them out of our space but still encouraging them to follow their dreams or becoming a successful writer.

Passion is also important to perseverance. Although you don’t have to be passionate about everything you write if you hate all of it pretty soon you will hate to write and eventually stop writing altogether. For me, if I’m not getting paid to write something, I better be passionate about what I’m writing about or chances are, I’m not going to write it.

The best reason for writing with passion, however, is that those are the subjects you know the most about and have the strongest opinions on. Expertise and attitude give your writing an edge. If you’ve ever read something flat and boring, you know why writing with passion is important. Passion attracts readers like nothing else can and will whether you’re writing a novel, an article, a press release, instructions, a letter or anything else. Passion draws people in because you are deeply and enthusiastically engaged in what you are writing about and sharing that with the world. Can you think of a better tool for becoming a success than having others interested and excited about what you have to say?


Perseverance and passion are two of the cornerstones of any successful writing career. They aren’t the entire foundation.

To succeed as a writer you also have to have solid business skills from managing finances to knowing how to hire employees to marketing, sales and public relations. Most writers I know are jacks (or jills) of all trade in that they know a little bit about a lot of things. For many, myself included, that is their greatest advantage. It can also be their greatest challenge because it makes it so hard to focus and establish expertise when you can and do move easily between topics, projects and industries. Versatility is great but, believe it or not, it can get boring if you don’t have the passion and perseverance to support it.

Yes, successful writers write with passion. More importantly, they have the business skills they need to succeed without many of the things others need (like a regular paycheck, insurance, a boss or a defined career path). Most importantly, successful writers write. Every day. They may not put everything they write out there for the world to see but they produce and publish enough to demonstrate that they are writing today and will still be writing tomorrow. When it comes right down to it, writing is the one thing every writer is passionate about.



What makes a writer?

I’m a writer. That’s all I’ve ever wanted to be. I am fortunate enough to make a living at it.

Like many writers, however, I find myself defending my professional choices to those around me including clients, friends, family and yes, even myself. There have been times when I have found myself “hating” what I write or worse, not “writing” at all. Times when I question what I was thinking when I set out to be a writer and why I stuck with it this long. I’ve felt like a fraud because I wrote rather than doing. On the other hand when I did something rather than writing I felt like a fraud, too, because I let myself be in the moment rather than capture it on paper.

After nearly a quarter of a century and half my life I have finally come to the realization that almost every writer I know has experienced these same ups and downs and sideways and front ways and back ways for themselves. So what makes me and my ways different?


Oh the circumstances are unique to each writer as are the lessons they learn or don’t learn. The experiences, however, are pretty common. If you call yourself a writer and you haven’t had one or more of them yet, relax. You will. And if you still call yourself a writer when you get to the over side or better yet in the midst of them well then welcome to the club. You are not alone.

What makes me, or anyone, a writer isn’t whether they have been published or had their work produced or even had it read by someone other than themselves. A writer may not even earn any money from what they write. They may not ever finish a book, a script or even a haiku. They are still a writer. They may even be a successful writer depending on how they define success. Because for most writers it is the writing that matters. It is that act of putting words together on paper or on a screen that drives us and keeps bringing us back to what and who we are: writers.

Simple as that sounds, it can be hard for people to understand. It can be hard for us to understand. So the next time you find yourself wondering what the hell you were thinking when you became a writer remember this:

A writer writes not because he is educated but because he is driven by the need to communicate. Behind the need to communicate is the need to share. Behind the need to share is the need to be understood. (Leo Rosten)

To be a writer is to want to be understood and not be ashamed to admit it. To be a writer is to look for answers everywhere.In documenting our search, we discover what we believe is true and share it with others. To be a writer is to boldly go, not where other have not gone, but where they have been, see it with new eyes and find something different. To be a writer is to be brave and unique, especially when that is the last thing we think we are.

I am a writer. It is all I want to be. I am lucky. My words give me wings.

How to estimate a creative design job

Some great advice for creative freelances from numbers types. Preparing bids and estimates can be one of the biggest hurdles freelancers have to overcome. These tips help put the process into focus.


Providing an estimation or a price quote for a creative work is one the difficult task every freelancer faces. Whatever you are working as graphic designer, web designer or freelancer writer, there are many factors can affect your prices and make the job of quoting a client more tricky, high price quotes may lead to lose the project and low price quote can makes the client questions your skills and not have no trust to work with you.

Here are some tips can help you to estimate your creative work

Know your client budget

Knowing the budget of your client is one of the important things that can affect your quote. You need to know before quoting your clients how much they are planning to spend. If the client’s budget is too low for you then you can save the time creating the quote and reject the job; and if…

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BitLit Partners With HarperCollins To Make Buying Digital Versions Of Books You Already Own Easier

The HarperCollins pilot is going to bear watching. If (and it’s a really big if) BitLit pulls it off and the program is expanded it is the first real challenge Amazon and iBooks may face. From the sounds of things, it will be a very good thing for readers. Unspoken is the effect it will have on authors who are increasing pressured to signing away all or most of their rights to publishers already anyway. Sad that what’s good for authors isn’t the same as what’s good for readers more often. Does anyone have a title available through BitLit or Amazon’s MatchBook service? Share your experience with us in the comments section!

Screencraft Screenwriting Fellowship 2013

Television and Film are popular blogging themes. If you’ve ever dreamt of doing more than just writing about what other people have created, the Screencraft Screenwriting Fellowship 2013 could be your chance. With the January 15, 2014 deadline for submissions looming, if you haven’t already finished a draft of your script, you may not have time to pull something together from scratch (then again, you might since one of the categories is a 30-minute TV pilot). What are you waiting for?